This behaviour tells the person that you are interested in them:

Turn completely towards the person you are interested in
Lean forward so that you are nearly touching
Maintain prolonged eye-contact

Sub-consciously you will start to display the following signs, indicating interest:
Your voice will become lower
Your breathing will increase
Your skin will flush

If you are sure that the person you're interested in is responding to your come-on it's time to introduce Stage Two - The Pull-Back.

Slightly withdraw from the object of your affections - this will make him or her unsure of their potential success and keen not to miss out on what's on offer:

The Pull-Back
Look away
Lower your eyelids
Use your hand to hide your expression

You don't want the person you are flirting with to pull back as well so you need to combine the pull-back with the block off!

The purpose of the block off is to ensure that they focus on you and you alone:

Change your position so your body blocks the person off from everyone else in the vicinity.
Men tend to stretch their legs out and women often use hand movements to create a barrier between the two of you and the rest of the room.
Use the person's name in conversation as this focuses their attention.

This is a tiny hint of where things could go from here.

Touch him or her when you pass them something
Touch your face or put your fingers through your hair

So now you've got them hooked! Make sure you judge the situation and pace your next moves accordingly.

Good luck!

- Don't try any of these too soon - if you're over-keen it might put them off
- Don't go over the top with your flirting, this again can put someone off - less is more!
- Just go with what feels right - if any of these steps feel unnatural just don't do them and concentrate on the ones you feel comfortable with.

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