My mum was my best friend, I miss her so much

My mum was my best friend, I miss her so much

Dear Lyn
I have just come across your website as I am desperately missing my mum and want her comfort. Mum died a year ago while I was on holiday in the USA with my wife and 3 young children. Mum and I were so close. She really was my best friend. She knew everything about me. There was no stone left unturned.

When I was 19, I was diagnosed with cancer. During that time my mum was my rock. She was with me every day during the 7 months of cheomothreapy. That was 18 years ago and I was a fortunate patient that was 'cured' from this terrible disease. Mum and I shared so much together during her life. One part of this was we both believed we were psychic. We attended a 'circle' together, and we seemed to know when either of us was not feeling good. Mum and I spoke everyday on the phone and when I received the phone call from my brother whilst in the USA, my life fell apart. As I said, that was a year ago last week and the pain is unbearable. But what I can't understand is why my instinct didn't tell me she had passed over and why she hasn't tried to make contact with me. My brother and Dad have both had vivid dreams, but for me.....nothing.

I so desperately want her to contact me and to see my children grow up. My children are 5, 2 & 1 and I know my mum lived for her children and grandchildren. So why was she taken so suddenly and why whilst I was away? We spoke on the phone the morning before she died and she gave no indication that she was unwell. I am trying to be strong for my wife and my children, but life is not the same.

Every day I so wish we could speak and I miss those phone calls so much. I try to take strength from my children, but I just feel like life will never be the same again. Mum was my rock, my best friend and there is so much I want to say. I don't think I would have ever been able to cope with Cancer if it wasn't for her support and I am finding it so hard to cope.

Robert

I'm so sorry for you in your situation. As I'm sure you know, it's very common for those were closest to, to make their transition to the other side when we’re not physically present. I believe it happens to spare us the impact at their actual passing. As you and your mother sat in circle together you'd have forged an even deeper link on a spiritual level - so at least you should find comfort in knowing that every circle has a group identity that has existed prior to earthly existence and continues thereafter. Also that every circle is connected - and in that way to the Great Spirit that was, is, and ever will be. Because of that, your mother is bound to be on a higher plane - and very busy! She knows that you are sending out your thoughts, and that you would make this contact. You have to sit in circle again, and as you meditate on that higher level of consciousness, so she will make her presence known to you. Meanwhile, you can still 'speak' to your mum on the celestial telephone - and even if you don't pick up her response - you can be sure she still hears your words. I hear the name of Mary and Lyn given - and to thank you for your kind thoughts and flowers. I'm to mention a rose bush to you and give you images of fields with new mown hay and a bunch of blue flowers. May you receive every blessing with the love you already have.
Lyn

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