Should I give it another go?

Question

I split up with my girlfriend five weeks ago after she said that she couldn't take my behaviour any more.

I grovelled for a week, but she had already met someone else. She said it was only a kiss and I said that I could handle that and continued to pursue her, to no avail.

After a week, I decided to let go and tried to get on with my life, and for three weeks I had a good time meeting other women. During this period I had a one-night stand, which I did to try and make myself feel better.

Then my girlfriend called me and asked to see me. As I still love her, I went to see her and I found out that the man she kissed and told me it wasn't gong any further, well, they had slept together.

I took it as shock but I didn't go mad, as I had done it too. What annoyed me is that I begged for a week and she said that she didn't want me, then she told me that nothing was happening with this other man. Next thing I know, she has been sleeping with him and seeing him on my doorstep.

We decided to give it another go, but I wasn't the same and I kept throwing it back in her face and not communicating properly. In the end, I lost my temper and said some nasty things and now we are not together.

I am in two minds what to do. My heart says to give it a go, but my head says no, because I can't forget what happened and I don't think it will be a healthy relationship. What shall I do?

Also, we have slept together since, and three days ago I noticed that my penis was itchy. I though this was because I needed a bath, so I had a bath and it stopped.

Since my bath we haven't slept together, but my penis is itchy again, and I have noticed little red marks on the head and under the foreskin. Is this because I need another bath or could I have something? I don't think that she has itchiness.

Answer

David writes:

I think it would be foolish to try and pursue this relationship. You are only 18, and there are millions of other women in the world.

The itch on your penis could be thrush (a very common fungal infection). You should let a doctor take a look at it.

Christine adds:

If you don't want to see your GP, do go along to your nearest genitourinary Medicine (GUM) clinic. They are the experts in this kind of thing. If you don't know where your nearest clinic is, ring your nearest large hospital and they will tell you.

By the way, most modern women expect their men to bath or shower at least once a day - so you might want to bear that in mind.

Yours sincerely

Dr David Delvin, GP and Christine Webber, Sex and Relationships Expert

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