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Question

I have a sexual problem that started about six months ago. Also, my background is that I was married for 11 years and had a terrible sexual relationship and never experienced an orgasm. I then divorced.

Later, I met my current partner who is a patient, loving, wonderful man and he knows just what to do to make our love making fulfilling for us both. He only has to touch me and I feel aroused.

When we first went to bed, making love was 'out of this world'. It still is but my problem is that there is an area just inside the vagina that when it is touched makes me feel like I need to urinate. I suppose I am still quite naive on all the terms related to sex but I seem to have a problem of being 'over moist' when we make love and I worry that I have released some urine.

If I touch the area myself with my fingertip, it feels very soft and 'full' – and instead of making me feel aroused, it makes me feel as if I want to pass water. This also happens when we have intercourse. Do I need to see a doctor about or is it psychological? Is it an 'ejaculation'?

In fact, I have been avoiding making love recently because of all this. I know my partner is feeling rejected.

Answer

David writes:

The area which you can feel with your fingertip is probably is your G-spot - which is currently believed to be located just over the urinary pipe.

Many women release a small amount of urine during sex and this really doesn't matter.

In addition, a small minority of women appear to release a special 'sex fluid' – particularly when their G-spots are pressed.

Obviously, you have a lot of anxiety about all this. So the best thing would be to go and have a check up with a woman doctor at a Family Planning Clinic - of which there are many where you live.

These doctors are very used to dealing with women's anxieties about this particular matter and I'm sure they'll be able to reassure you.

Christine adds:

I just want to say that you really have nothing to worry about, and that you'll feel better once you've seen a Family Planning doc.

The main thing here is that you at last have a great sexual relationship - but what you need to take on board is that you deserve it!

I once interviewed a number of women who ejaculate during sex. Most of them had started by feeling that they were freaks, unattractive, too wet or that they were peeing (not that it would have mattered if they had been in my view!).

Fortunately most of them came to realise that they had a special skill and they also found that men adored them the wetter they got - because all these men thought that having a really wet woman meant that they (the blokes) were highly skilled lovers!

Don't be shy to discuss this with your partner - it just means you're a highly sexed and passionate woman. I bet he's pleased about that. You adore this man and he adores you - so don't keep him at arm's length.

Best wishes.

Yours sincerely

Dr David Delvin, GP and Christine Webber, sex and relationships expert

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