Yet our research shows that the average British female doesn't start having reliable orgasms until two years after she first has sex with a man!

There are many women who don't conform to this pattern: for instance, a lot of teenage girls learn to climax on their own - through masturbation - long before they ever go near a guy. But in general, the ability to 'come' has to be learned over a considerable period of time.

So if you haven't managed it yet, don't be downhearted as you almost certainly will get there.

Fact Two
Practically any woman should be able to have orgasms - and indeed multiple orgasms - if she really wants to.

Back in your mum's day, sex was still quite a taboo subject and talking about orgasms was even more taboo.

And far into the 1970s and 1980s, it was widely suggested that for a 'lady' to want orgasms wasn't really quite 'nice'. And for her to want multiple orgasms was absolutely outrageous! Furthermore, many so-called 'experts' suggested that multiple orgasms were almost impossible for most females.

However, we now know that:

I'm not saying that you can achieve all this overnight but, if you stimulate your own clitoris for long enough over a period of time, you can eventually achieve as many orgasms as you like. Clearly you can also have multiple orgasms if you have a partner - male or female - who is devoted to giving you pleasure.

Fact Three
There is nothing wrong with 'do it yourself sex'.

Indeed, sex experts now agree that masturbation can be enormously useful in helping a woman:

So don't hesitate to go for it.

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