The 60s sparked a sexual revolution; the topic of sex had been somewhat of a taboo before the century of psychedelia and 'free love' liberated the minds (not to mention the underwear) of hippies everywhere.
Although it's over 40 years since the swinging sixties, sex still seems to be omnipresent, if a little less newsworthy. In fact, sex is arguably becoming more like a daily hobby than an intimate moment snatched between the sheets of two newlyweds.
The cocktail of contraceptives on offer (and the provocatively named cocktails for that matter) seem to imply that we're living in a climate which has experienced a sexual boom. But is everyone really 'doing it'? Are the pharmaceutical companies meeting consumer demands or actually creating the need for sex? Let's take a closer look...
The 's' word
Arguably, sex in today's society has become ubiquitous. Magazines offer between the sheet advice to 'boost your sex life,' tips for ensuring hot holiday romance, information on the best sexual positions, how to achieve the perfect body, and so on. Do we need all this information? Apparently we do because we're all doing it, aren't we?
Urban myth?
It could be argued that the idea of everyone having regular sex is simply an urban myth. Unfortunately, it's hard to establish the exact number of sexual partners any one person has had. This is due to pre-conceived opinions about what the number of sexual partners says about a person, which in turn impacts upon an individual's response. This is usually gender related so that a woman who's been with many sexual partners is often perceived as being 'easy', while a man who has slept with a large amount of people is thought to be admirable. Thus, a man responding to the question about how many sexual partners he has had may be inclined to exaggerate the number, while a woman may give a number which is lower than the actual amount.
The 'v' word
With the real data so hard to record, deciphering whether everyone is 'doing it' is left to conjecture. Thus, it can be argued that not as many people are having regular sex as society might have us believe. Ironically, it's would seem that nowadays, letting people know that you're a virgin is breaking more of a taboo than declaring you're a nymphomaniac. Are virgin's supposed to feel ashamed that they don't have an active sexual life and that they can't relate to those sensationalist features in the magazines?
Being a virgin in your 30s
People seem to assume that by the time you're 30, you will have lost your virginity. This assumption could well be fuelled by the possible 'urban myth' that everyone is having regular sex. However, often virginity is retained due to any number of many reasons including religious beliefs, family pressures, work commitments, waiting to find the right partner, the absence of a loving relationship, and so on.
Feeling isolated
Someone who has never had a sexual partner may start to feel alienated by society and subsequently experience pressure to conform to the apparent 'norm'. However, sex is rarely straightforward, involving a myriad of emotions, thus someone who rushes to lose their virginity before being ready, could have negative encounters.
Self-acceptance
It can be hard to allow yourself to accept that being a virgin is not a bad thing. You have to remember that being a virgin will not necessarily make you any less desirable. Everyone has different opinions on sex, some people find it off-putting if someone has had many sexual partners and find the prospect of having a relationship with a virgin refreshing. The main point to make is that it is important that, if you're a virgin, you accept this aspect of your character and don't make excuses for it. When you are confident with yourself. When you have accepted your virginity, others will see that you're comfortable in your own skin, which can often render you more attractive as a well-adjusted person.
Timing
If you're apprehensive about your virginity and unsure when to let the person you're dating know about it, the best advice is to wait until you have been on quite a few dates with them first. As with anything of a sexual nature, it's usually preferable to wait until you know the person quite well until you reveal intimate details.
Dealing with rejection
There are many reasons why two people might not be compatible relationship-wise. Therefore, you must never take it to heart if someone chooses not to embark upon a relationship with you. Don't automatically put it down to your virginity. If that were the reason, then it's an acceptable one, just as having different viewpoints, lacking shared hobbies, living too far apart, and so on, are also feasible reasons as to why two people might not be compatible. Therefore, don't take rejection personally because some people simply aren't compatible. However, rest assured that you will find someone who you are compatible with.
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