A guide to successful flirting

There are four stages to flirting - the professional, successful flirt will use all four stages but the key is to do what you feel comfortable with.

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Stage 1: The come on

This behaviour tells the person that you are interested in them:

• Turn completely towards the person you are interested in
• Lean forward so that you are nearly touching
• Maintain prolonged eye-contact

Sub-consciously you will start to display the following signs, indicating interest:

• Your voice will become lower
• Your breathing will increase
• Your skin will flush

Stage 2: The pull back

If you are sure that the person you're interested in is responding to your come-on it's time to introduce stage 2: The pull back.

Slightly withdraw from the object of your affections - this will make him or her unsure of their potential success and keen not to miss out on what's on offer:

• Look away
• Lower your eyelids
• Use your hand to hide your expression

Stage 3: The block off

You don't want the person you are flirting with to pull back as well so you need to combine the pull-back with the block off!

The purpose of the block off is to ensure that they focus on you and you alone:

• Change your position so your body blocks the person off from everyone else in the vicinity.
• Men tend to stretch their legs out and women often use hand movements to create a barrier between the two of you and the rest of the room.
• Use the person's name in conversation as this focuses their attention.

Stage 4: The promise

This is a tiny hint of where things could go from here.

• Touch him or her when you pass them something
• Touch your face or put your fingers through your hair

So now you've got them hooked! Make sure you judge the situation and pace your next moves accordingly.

Good luck!