Dear Anne
I am 59 and my partner 57. I consider myself to have a healthy sex-drive and still like to make love two to four times a week. My partner feels I am oversexed and now I am beginning to worry she may be right. What is your opinion? John
Dear John
It's hard when you and your partner have different levels of sex-drive. There is no absolute standard so it's not right to say that you are over-sexed nor that she is under-sexed. You just have differing needs. Many men and women continue to enjoy sex into their eighties although not everyone does. You could ask what your partner needs to feel more like making love. Many women find that frequent little daily demonstrations of affection which don't lead onto sex set up a better level of romantic inclination when the time comes for making sexual overtures, so long as the difference is clear.
I hope you can both be considerate of one another's needs and reach a mutually agreeable compromise. I wish you a great relationship both in and out of bed. Good luck.
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