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I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years now and there's been talk of engagement, but i think i have feelings for someone else. About 3 years ago This other guy (i'll call him Bob just to give him a name) and I hung out a few times and really got along and the feelings sparked then and he felt the same way. Then my boyfriend found out before i could think about what was going on and ever since then he's hated me talking to Bob and has forbidden me to see him even though I'd already told him nothing was going to happen between me and Bob. So back to my dilemma, Bob has recently told me he still has feelings for me and i have realised that I still have feelings for him too. The problem is that we haven't seen each other since those times 3 years ago. Also, my boyfriend whom i am still with has no idea that Bob and I still feel for each other. And on top of that, i still care a great deal for my boyfriend.
What do i do?

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Added: 23 April 2008 18:34
Jane says:
If you have had these feelings now for 5 years and you are still thinking about bob then i don't think it will work with your boyfriend, it is not fair on your partner,you need to be honest with him and your self about what you really want. It won't be easy onwhat ever decision you decide to make but i think deep down you know what you have to do.
Good Luck
Added: 25 March 2008 00:50
bob or bf says:
sorry at the end i meant to say - make the most of your life, AND have fun
Added: 25 March 2008 00:49
bob or bf says:
what does your heart tell you? i dont know the whole situation but your ovbiously not with the love of your life if you have STILL got feelings for that someone else. be risky take chances, your only here once (well who knows maby more haha) make the most of your life had have fun :) hope you sort it out
Added: 24 March 2008 19:03
PRIMROSE says:
You say you have feelings for your boyfriend, I`ll call him Ted, But you kinda like Bob, and I think you prefer him instead. I think your just holding onto Ted beause he`s there But it`ll never work, `cos in your heart you cannot share. It`s not fair to Bob, I`ll call him Ben, I hope you find the answer, in your heart, Amen!
Added: 19 March 2008 12:00
John says:
You probably know the answer to this one yourself already, if you have feelings for someone else then you cannot even think of an engagement & perhaps its time to clear the air & let your partner find someone knew,depending of course how strong your feelings are for him against your feelings for Bob, hope you sort things out ok.
Added: 17 March 2008 13:05
Petra says:
It appears that you're with the wrong man. If you still have feelings for Bob then maybe it's time to move on and let your current guy find someone new as well.

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