Who cares?

I can reccommend Nicola Morgan "blame my brain" it is a guide for teens and parents alike telling us what we already know-the teenage brain is different from both the child and adult brain and that is normal.

Do you have quality time or fun together anymore? If not maybe "I liked it when we used to..... " may help the communication up again.
Is there middle ground about which nights or how many she stays out late, say the nights before work she goes to bed earlier than others?
When you say you won't cut her off finanically as it would harm your relationship,this shows you care.Could some payments be held back as a bonus until tasks are completed?

Can you tell your daughther you care and have hopes for her future?Take time to listen to her replies and try to have some fun together.
Set goals for small rewards or time together she picks?

I agree with mark, be cruel to be kind. if your daughter was just your employee and not your daughter, you wouldnt stand for such behaviour. Maybe you need to give her some notice, and say if she doesn't book up her ideas then she will loose her job.

I'm 20, so not so far away from your daughters age. I remember getting to a stage where the realisation of growing up hit hard and I needed to find a away of clinging onto being able to do what I want. Your daughter will learn slowly, but the more u say to her more she push it away.

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I THINK YOU NEED TO LEND YOUR DAUGHTER YOUR CONFIDENCE BOOK. OR TRY BUYING HER A LUMICLOCK BODYCLOCK, IT IS AN ALARM THAT HAS A LIGHT. IT COMES ON AND GOES OFF LIKE REAL SUNLIGHT. IT HAS AN NORMAL NOISE OR RADIO OR MP3S VIA SD CARD. IT WORKED FOR ME. I TOO HAD A PROBLEM WHEN I WAS 17. I WENT ON HOLIDAY WITH MY DAD AND UNCLE TO FRANCE FOR WINE TASTING AND EURO DISNEY. I DRANK ALOT. I WOKE THE DAY WE WERE GOING TO DISNEY AND I THINK THE DRINK TOOK IT TOLL. I LOST IT AND RAN AWAY. I WALKED AND GOT LOST. I FOUND A FRENCH HOUSE AND SHOUTED UNTIL SOMEONE CAME TO HELP. I SAID I WAS REALLY THIRSTY. SHE GAVE ME A DRINK OF WATER AND SHE AGREED TO TAKE ME TO THE POLICE STATION. I WAITED THERE FOR MY DAD TO PICK ME UP. WHEN I GOT BACK TO HOME, EVENTUALLY, I QUIT COLLEGE AND JUST LAID IN BED FOR A WEEK HARDLY EATING. I NEVER GOT OUT OF BED. I SLEPT ON THE FLOOR. MY PARENTS WERE WORRIED AND CALLED MY DOCTOR. HE SAID I WOULD HAVE TO BE SECTIONED. HE LEFT THE ROOM AND WENT DOWN STAIRS AND I STARTED TO TRASH MY ROOM. THEY CALLED THE POLICE AND I WAS TAKEN TO HOSPITAL. I STAYED THERE FOR JUST UNDER 28 DAYS. I HAVE REBEEN THERE PROBABLY 3 TIMES SINCE. MOSTLY FROM DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AGAINST MY PARENTS. I HAD THE PHYCHIATRIST THAT CAME THE FIRST TIME, OVER TO CHAT FOR A WHOLE YEAR EVERY THREE WEEKS. THAT WAS GOOD. I HAD TO SEE A PHYCHOLGIST BY ORDER OF THE POLICE. I RECENTLY GOT ESCORTED TO MY FRONT DOOR AFTER I HAD A ANGER TANTRUM AGAINST SOME STRANGERS (YOBOS) WITH DRINK IN ME. IM BACK IN COLLEGE NOW.