Who cares?

Who cares?

I am a 27 year old girl who is in the process of buying her first home with her boyfriend of almost two years. My boyfriend is one of four brothers and is without a doubt ‘the quiet one’. He doesn’t argue, is constantly the peace-keeper and always manages to see the good in everyone.

However the problem is his family, his mum insists that we cannot decorate our own home and has told us that she will be doing the decorating. His dad is going through every piece of paperwork that comes through the door regarding the mortgage (we both still live at home at the moment) determined to find out every single detail. We told both sets of parents what we were intending to buy when we found the house we wanted, but asked them all to keep it quiet until after the mortgage had been accepted so we knew we had brought the property. Within a few hours his parents had told everybody what they knew, then had the gall to have a go at my boyfriend keeping secrets from his brothers – which he wasn’t, he simply wanted to keep it quiet in case it all fell through.

When we eventually get the keys to our house, we dare not leave them anywhere close to his mum as we are terrified that once she realises she wont have a key, she’ll sneak out and get her own cut.

I have been put down by his mum and dad since the moment we met, they say that I am not good enough, not clever enough, don’t work hard enough - even though I am a scientist working in the healthcare section. However they are now focusing their attention on ‘breaking’ my boyfriend, as neither of them work, they depend on his board money each month to survive. My boyfriend however, doesn’t feel he can stand up to them as they have already cut other members of their family totally out of their lives and dreads this happening to him.

All we want is an easy life, a little house to do up and a chance to build a future. However, his scheming family seem to want to ruin it. What can I do to stop it all.

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