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My ex partner assaulted me

My ex partner assaulted me and is due to appear in court for this. When this first happened I hated him but in less than 2 weeks he has started seeing someone 20 years younger than him with a small child. He is still drinking heavily which was the cause of all our problems since I have found out about this woman my feelings are very confused and I feel jealous don't know if this is actually of her or of the fact he seems to have moved on so quickly and while I am on antidepressants and sleeping tablets he is out all the time having a good time. Nothing seems to bother him which I find hard to understand as could be looking at a custodial sentence, he has also lost his job but is appealing against. Someone phoned work up and said he had a drink problem so they tested him, he is blaming me for this but I did not report him to work although I did tell the police, domestic violence and witness support that he was always drunk even at work. He seems so carefree (maybe its an act) while I feel he has wrecked my life.

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Added: 9 August 2008 01:48

lana says:

Girl put your head up high don your best clothes and walk you keep right on there walking never look back every time you feel the need to look back flush the loo send him right down the sewer where he belongs. That life is over he is over. Who cares where what or how he is doing or who he's with? nobody least of all you. S**t happens girl but your life will get better an better beleive it it's true.

Added: 7 August 2008 00:09

cariad says:

walk away with your head held high from this low life. Get all the support you need beside you as a back up. He is trying to prove to himself that he can still pull, but you know better what the outcome of a life with him is. Don't look at your past life with him through rose coloured glasses remember he hit you and no one has that right. be brave and strong. good luck

Added: 2 August 2008 15:12

maureen says:

they never change think your self luky you are out of it now. And get on with your life.I had it for twenty years, thought that my life. But no i am now married again for nearly a year and life is so differant.

Added: 11 July 2008 18:19

Jean, Lancashire says:

Whatever he's done to you he will carry this on to his next relationship. You did the best thing by reporting him and he may get the help he needs, but you need to move upwards and onwards; you deserve the best in life - go girl and don't look back. Best of luck for the future.

Added: 8 July 2008 13:49

Hannah says:

This guy is an idiot and you deserve better than to be thinking of him with any whistful views of 'what could have been'. Sorry to say, but he obviously did not love you in the way that you love him or with the respect and care that you deserve. You should let the idiot take the consequences of hurting you and move on with your life, counselling can help to make you realise that you are worth a lot more than this guy could ever give you. I take it that the girlfriend with the young child does not know about his violence, aggression and drinking problem? What ever he thinks about you letting someone know what the situation at home was like, you deserve to be heard and do not have to keep his dirty little secrets for him. Try something new after the case, take up a new hobby, take your mind off him, and you might find the love you deserve sooner than you think. Good luck and remember that nothing he did was your fault, you are not responsible for his actions.