I'm stuck between 4 guys.

You don't need help. You just need to chil my girl. I have a daughter the same age and I never look at problem pages so this kind of happens by accident.

Let me start with this. "You are the most special young person you and those who love you know"

You will naturally be attracted to other people and they to you. Throughout your life you will always have choices. These choices will include relationship choices.

The choices you make now will "MAKE YOU THE PERSON YOU ARE YET TO BECOME"

So how young lady do you see yourself at 21?

If you want to be treated as a lady, then remember that is all natural but not all helpful. Twentyone seems all so far away but its just a few hurrdles. Let me explain.

Do you want to smoke?
Do you want to drink?
Do you want to be physicallly fit?
Do you want to be attractibve?
Do you want to dress smart or casual?
What do you want people to think after they meet you?
What do you want your reputation to be?
When you leave school how do you want your teachers to rememebr you?
If you were asked what would you say your talent is?
What would you like it to be?

If your head is full of boys and choices. Then now is the time to step back and ask yourself the above list of questions. Then only do what helps you become the person you wish to be. For some thats school, fitness, work experince and money in the pocket to fund increasing independance.

For others its boys, ****** and an early pushchair course. I chose the boys version of the second. It has been very hard to correct the poor choices I made but it can be done. However the one thing you can never repair is your reputation with friends and loved ones. They are the ones there forever. Not the really cute chap up the road.

Aim high, protect your reputation and enjoy life.

My duaghter is nearly 16 and at 14 I had this conversation with her. She has had boyfriends and learnt to dump them when they stand in the way of her targets.

She has gone from a C & D student to A and A*.

She has a job on a sunday at a cafe and always has money for clothes and going out.

She drinks but never gets drunk and all her friends smoke pot but she never does.

I am now wealthy enough for her not to have to do these things but she has decided what she wants to be and what she doesn't want to be.

Let me be honest but not graphic. I want her to know what it is like to have to decide about men. My advice is do it at unversity (if thats what she choses) or in a place where your reputation at home remains undamaged and at a time she is physically and menatally mature enough to cope with the hurt that relationships might bring. We can all cope with the highs.

Best of luck I hope the questions help. If they do consider finding a woman to help you decide. That woman needs to be a "significant person" a mentor who can help stetch you and not just listen or say its OK do what you like. When we do what we like, other people get hurt or we get hurt.

I have raised two children on my own. A man now 20 and my girl. I belive it is vary harder for young womenn

I sympathis with you, I've been in a similar situation, its tricky I know but at your age it is a big issue. I can honestly say that these are fleeting moments of wanting, over time these with stop and you will see these guys in a different light. Keep your head together and stay away from them they are too old and find a hunk nearer your age. You at the end of the day will be the one hurt. You're current boyfriend just wants to keep you hanging on, dump him he obviously does'nt really care about you. Keep things light not too serious, I can honestly say love at 14 is strong and intense, just keep strong and focused on yourself, enjoy your friends but most of all don't grow up too soon!!!!!

At 14, you're far too young to have so many relationship issues. Maybe you would be better off just keeping them all as just friends for now.