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Jealous, controlling and overpowering boyfriend
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I'm a 16 year old girl and have been in a relationship with my older (18) boyfriend for just over 6 months, however, I am already beginning to despise him. He forces me to do the things that I do not want to do and because I am a relatively shy character I'm unable to prevent his dominance. He doesn't like my friends and constantly tries to pull me away from them. Because he is older than me he wants things to be more serious and I really do not feel that I can take serious right now, I have plenty of other things on my mind. I really want to end it with this guy but it is difficult for a number of reasons;
2. But my birthday is next week and I know that he will buy me a really expensive gift and thus I'll feel guilty for ending the relationship
3. He can be an emotional and forceful guy which kind of makes me scared to end it with him
4. My family adore him
5. He is constantly reminding me how much he loves me and how happy I make him, I just don't feel the same way.
I really need some advice and some opinions on the issue on when and how to dump him.
I know it will be hard and emotionally difficult but for my own sanity I need to do it.
Alex
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Take the bull by the horns and get out of a relationship that doesn't make you happy. You can find it in yourself to be strong and put an end to it. Make sure you are in a place you feel confident in and you can leave when you feel like it. He'll get over it and so will your family - it's not about them anyway. Your friends will be there to support you, that's their job. Ask for them to be there for you and they will.
Good Luck
If he wants a mature relationship he must also realise that it means both parties have to be happy, not just one overwhelming the other. You are not happy, and both you and he deserve someone that makes you so. You could tell him (face to face, as you will get the most respect this way) you feel you're a bit young for a relationship this intense, and if you're a bit scared of his reaction, take a trusted friend with you for moral support and to ensure he doesn't go overboard. Good luck
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