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Should I contact him?

Here's the story, my boyfriend and I broke up last weekend as I thought that he didn't want to be with me as he didn't want to go out or do anything with me. It was a moment of madness on my behalf to tell him I wanted to break up!

But when we talked during the week we realized that there was a few things we hadn't told each other about our relationship. So instead of splitting up totally we decided to go on a "break" for a few weeks instead. He was saying that he had no time for himself, his job involves a huge volume of driving, then he also has his 9 yo son to visit, he also comes up and stays over on Friday nites so he has to collect him and drop him home. As well as that I live over an hour's drive from him!!!

I'm trying so so hard to give him the break and space that my boyfriend (I still consider him that) wants but I'm finding it more and more difficult as the days go on. I find myself just looking at the fone, wanting it to ring and be him... I want to text/ring him just to see how he is doing and how he is feeling, how his day went etc etc.

I'm afraid by not contacting him he thinks I don't care about him and if I do will it look like I'm desperate and begging him to take me back ? What's the best thing to do here? I'm going out of mind here.....I really really don't want to lose him, he's the best thing thats in my life.

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Added: 24 May 2008 22:41
David says:
Sounds complicated.
I would contact and find out the situation sooner rather than later.
However I am a man.
Added: 23 April 2008 18:53
anonymous says:
It really depends on whether you think after this 'break' your relationship will be better. It is very difficult because you cannot make someone want to contact you or see you and it will hurt even more if you resort to this.
If he wants time alone then i think you should give him this but if you feel that you are making more effort and he is not making enough, should you really wait for him?
Added: 10 April 2008 13:20
Hannah says:
I would leave it if I were you, until he contacts you first. People need their space, and he needs time, just as you do, to decide what he really wants. Pressurizing him now is most likely to annoy him and make him feel like you're not giving the space he needs to make a decision on his own about what to do, remember you were the one who wanted the space in the first place and the male ego is a delicate thing. So don't make him feel like it's you who makes all the decisions in the relationship otherwise you are likely to get your fingers burnt. Let him call you first. Good luck!
Added: 3 April 2008 11:02
Sheila says:
That's a difficult one, but you really do need to give him time. Maybe leave it for 4 or 5 days before contacting him, giving him enough time on his own.

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